Hmmm...am i a typical female?

I was seriously falling for this guy and we were thinking of moving to austin together in 6 mos. Now my feelings are changing for him and it's because of little things that he does that bothers me, like when I cook dinner and he eats it all and doesn't save any for anyone except for his lunch the next day. or when he blows all his money on expensive vehicle items. or when he grinds his teeth at night. and he pauses alot during our 'intimate relations' (that's ANNOYING!). I still like him, but don't think I can spend the rest of my life with him. on the other hand, he is the sweetest guy i've ever met and would do anything for me and that's very rare and I want that! but i'm super busy with school and my kid and he wants to spend every moment with me and it just can't happen. I should just buck up and 'don't sweat the small stuff', right?

Hmmm...am i a typical female?
TALK with him! Don't just dump him, he hasn't done anything wrong. For goodness sake, please, you yourself have described him as a great catch, so please, just talk to him about the small stuff.
Reply:That's good, I'm happy for you two =) thanks for the best answer, and I hope you guys have a long, prosperous relationship =) Report It

Reply:Have you tried talking to him about these things? If he doesn't know that they bother you, they aren't going to change. Don't accuse him or yell at him, just tell him that there are some concerns you have. Ask him if there is anything about you that concerns him. Be honest with each other.
Reply:this happens in relationships. you get so deep into them and then you just start seeing the flaws even though they have always been there, you just didn't recognize them. you love your man for who he is, there's flaws in everyone, you'll just have to accept it. this is the way your mind is testing your limits and how much you care for him.
Reply:You're right. There are always going to be things about your partner that bother you. You won't always be perfectly happy, but it sounds like he's still good to you, and loves you. Don't let those little things bother you so much, there's no sense in losing someone who's great to you over little things he does. If it bothers you that much just let him know, but don't be mean about it. I'm sure he doesn't mean to do these things, and he doesn't want to upset you.
Reply:I would go to Austin and see how it goes there. If it is really killing you to be with him, leave. But I think those small inperfections make a guy perfect. I dated this guy who got freaked out from anything. I thought it was so cute, he was the longest bf I ever I but he had to move...anyways you are a typical female and I think you might be stressed. Try going to a weekend spa alone.



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