Would you dump someone over this?

First of all i'm 26 and my GF is 25. We've been dating for 8 months. My girlfriend has developed a hole in the front of her 2 top front teeth. The hole is at the gum line. I'm worried that if she doesn't do anything, it will get worse and they will fall out. My problem is she won't go to the dentist (no dental insurance) even when I told her I would pay. This is embarrassing b/c sometimes food particles get stuck in it, and it's disgusting too. I can't bring it up b/c she will obviously become angry. But damn, she needs to take care of herself. She also gives the excuse that she is poor. Well she lives with her mom and works part time at a job that pays 7 bucks an hour. So it's her fault she is poor, she's a grown woman. Get another job, work some overtime. Something, don't just sit there and do nothing and let your teeth fall out. Everything else about her is perfect, but I don't know if I can put up with someone who obviously doesn't care about themselves.

Would you dump someone over this?
im with you on this one. as much as you should accept people with their imperfections, this one can be fixed so its not really an imperfection. i could never with someone that didnt take care of themselves. so do what you have to do. if anything you shouldnt feel bad, cus you've done enough to help her out.
Reply:I don't blame you. Taking care of someones teeth is one of the most important thing that I can think of. It sounds like over all your girl has no ambition. I think that I would consider moving on simply to find someone who better suits you and has come goals in life.
Reply:Ever see the movie "Shallow Hal"? I'll just bet that you have no faults at all.....right? Try a different approach that doesn't make her feel embarrassed about her teeth, and appearance.
Reply:If she's willing to let something like this go, she'll let anything go, but no you cannot dump her over this. Personally, women without teeth can provide certain services on a level the teethed can only dream to attain.


You have to drop this line of conversation for at least a month, then find some other reason to dump her.
Reply:It does not sound like she is going to be good long term


choice for you...
Reply:lol.. tell her that either she goes to the dentist or you leave her... I do however think that this is just a little silly for you to go to this extreme...
Reply:I don't get why she won't go. I mean if my boyfriend said that to me I would go pronto! It's nothing to be embarrassed about. It's not her fault it is happening, but it is her fault if she doesn't take care of it.



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